HAVE YOU HAD ENOUGH OF BOUNCING AROUND ALONE TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT TO DO, WHO TO TRUST, AND HOW TO HEAL?
Are you fed up with thinking you've got things under control only to have a meltdown when you least expect it?
Sick of waking up each morning feeling just as depressed, powerless, hopeless, and lost as the day before?
You think, "There must be a better way to live than this" but can't figure out how to more comfortably manage symptoms, cope with triggers, and handle stress while also being productive at work and present in your relationships and the truth is, just attempting to do all of that saps your energy and still leaves you flailing around without success.
You want to feel like you can HANDLE day-to-day living, work, love, romance and friendship the way ANY SURVIVOR would who wants to find a way to connect to the present and create the future despite what happened in the past. Figuring that out is the quest that haunts you every day.
I'VE BEEN THERE -- WAY LONGER THAN I WANTED TO BE.
Picture this: A young girl is severely traumatized at the tender age of 13. She grows up bent into the shape of a survivor: low self-esteem, riddled with insomnia, recurring nightmares, anxiety, control issues, rage, and the belief that she didn't deserve to survive.
After high school she goes to college. After college she.... struggles so much just to get through each day that she can barely make any decisions. She takes the job opportunities that accidentally come her way and continues to place her focus on how to manage symptoms, hide the truth, and hide herself from the world in long bouts of isolation and disconnection.
Who that girl could have become had trauma not touched her we'll never know.
Who she did become was someone whose family relationships were strained, romances couldn't be sustained, and friendships dissolved in the fog of how she muddled through each day.
And then, there were the physical side effects of all that stress: stomach, liver, muscle, bone, and organ dysfunction because stress breaks down immunity and other basic systems.
For almost 30 years of my own PTSD experience I struggled to navigate the outside world while my inside world tumbled in unending tumultuous chaos.
Eventually I went into therapy. I talked and talked and talked. At first the results seemed good: Putting language to the memories builds our power.
And then, it was clear, the results were way less than good: After 5 years of talking about what happened to me the stress was worse, the meltdowns bigger, and my ability to hold down a job collapsed.
I would have had such an easier time if someone had taught me about trauma, helped me develop a variety of coping skills, focused my healing intention and helped me fully release myself from the grip of the past.
All of this, of course, helped me know exactly what's important in helping survivors move forward and feel better.
Here's what I see happen when women who want to stop carrying the weight of the past receive the type of
personal focus, direction, and concrete process they need to create calm and clarity in how they heal after trauma:
Triggers become minimized and avoidable
Solutions to conflicts happen more efficiently
Families and friends work together with survivors to create deeply connected relationships
Healing happens more effectively for the survivor herself, and also for the relationships around her
Late in my recovery, when this happened in my own family, we experienced a great sense of comaraderie as we functioned more like a Trauma Recovery Team WHILE STILL having non-trauma-focused time as a family. We enjoyed family time at home. We went on New York City outings. We took trips on my brother's boat. We went to the Caribbean Islands for vacation.
Life and the family went on a parallel track with recovery. We learned to find balance, respect, and a gameplan. We learned to heal together.
TRAUMA EDUCATION, COPING TECHNIQUES, AND SUPPORT-CENTRIC TRAUMA RECOVERY STRATEGY FOR THE FRIENDS AND FAMILY WHO WANT TO STAY CLOSELY CONNECTED TO A TRAUMA SURVIVOR ON HER JOURNEY TO WELLNESS.
I've designed this consult specifically for family and friends who want to learn:
How trauma affects the brain, body, and spirit
To develop effective coaching strategies for trigger moments
What to say -- and not to say -- to a trauma survivor
How to take care of themselves while taking care of a survivor
Coping techniques for living with the stress of post-trauma life
Strategies for creating connected relationships in the aftermath of trauma
Some practitioners use a lot of psychological or pseudo-scientific jargon that makes your head spin. Others talk in a lot of generalities but don't give you specific, hands-on takeaways that you can implement the minute the consult ends.
None of that helps you achieve the goals most important to your family -- and that's all I care about.
Together, we'll simplify what you need to know, how you can apply it, and when, where, and with whom to implement it so that you feel more certain, more knowledgeable, and more adept at handling how trauma affects your family day-to-day.
In this program, specifically designed to address you and your family's unique needs, I'm teaching you everything you need to know in a way that makes it super-easy to understand and utilize -- even if you don't have a degree in science or psychology -- so that you can start rebuilding your family bonds and experiencing that sense of sustainable equanimity and personal connection that you're missing.
My past and current clients have:
Gone from zero communication to deep dialogue in 1 day
Created collaborative coping strategies that dramatically reduced day-to-day stress
Discovered how to reconnect after a long period of alienation
Collaborated with their loved one to create new strategies that handle triggers and post-trauma symptoms quickly and effectively
Learned how to take care of themselves while supporting their survivor
In the FRIENDS & FAMILY CONSULT we start with the basics you need to know and then build a unique protocol based on what your relationship currently experiences
so that you can better manage intense moments, more accurately predict potential problems, stabilize the connection between you and your loved one, plus learn how to work as a team to manage post-trauma symptoms, issues, and challenges.
BECOMING YOUR OWN TRAUMA EXPERT
STARTS WITH EDUCATION
Knowing how to manage the healing process is the most important currency in life after trauma. The more you understand the definition of trauma, its nature, how it behaves, how it creates deep and lasting impact, and what that means for you and your loved one the more you will be able to start creating organization out of the trauma chaos.
In this part of the conversation we will:
Give you a grounded foundation for understanding what trauma is, and what it isn't
Outline how trauma happens and explain why some people are affected by it while others aren't
Identify signs of struggle after trauma
Detail how trauma affects the body and mind -- and, most importantly -- the brain
DEVELOPING PARTNER SKILLS,
INTUITION, AND STRATEGY
Understanding how to partner with a survivor in recovery changes everything. Here we'll focus on the powerful foundational structure of developing your ability to lead, interact, support, and sustainably hold the post-trauma space in ways that inspire, respect, and actively encourage comfortably paced forward motion.
Get ready to:
Learn how to manage a variety of symptoms with specific, go-to actions
Predict and avoid triggers in multiple situations
Develop survivor-savvy language that creates a positive, collaborative, and creative relationship
Embrace the Do's and Don'ts of survivor relationship management
Define a strategy of survivor care specifically detailed and customized to your situation
Creating a committed and connected relationship that survives trauma and recovery requires forethought, planning, and the ability to translate ideas into action. Here's where we get extremely detailed in what to do when our session ends.
Prepare yourself to:
Specifically design a core communication strategy that effectively expresses both your loved one's and your needs and experience
Outline a plan to create a more comfortable and actively sustained connection
Identify a preliminary collaborative healing plan that includes specific intentions, milestones, and resolutions to challenges
STABILIZING THE RELATIONSHIP
Start making a list of your questions because we are going to answer ALL OF THEM.
YOUR PRIVATE CONSULT WITH MICHELE CONTAINS:
Your Brain After Trauma e-book, Michele's introductory guide to how trauma affects the brain, and the brain's powerful ability to heal.
10 Tips to Understanding Someone with PTSD , an infographic overview of trauma from the survivor perspective to educate family members about what the survivor experiences and how it affects behavior.
(1) 1-hour laser strategy coaching and educational session
Option to upgrade to 2-hour session to cover additional components of family care, including....
Recognizing how post-trauma life affects you is essential. Your loved one isn't the only one who needs care, support, and attention during this time. You do, too. Caregivers often forget to prioritize how to think about, nurture, and make time to de-stress themselves. And, they also often set aside what's bothering them to keep the spotlight on what's challenging their loved one. Truly healing the relationship means also healing yourself.
In this part of the conversation we will:
Clearly identify the impact this post-trauma experience has on you
Outline strategic and simple options for boundaries and self-care
Detail an implementable plan to reclaim your sense of self outside of your caregiver role
Engage effective processes for efficient emotional release so that you feel more energized, less burdened, and clear on how to protect and support yourself through the trauma healing process
RESOLVING YOUR OWN STRUGGLE, FRUSTRATION, AND STRESS
It is ENTIRELY possible for post-trauma relationships in your family to be more consistently comfortable, emotionally balanced, and able to flex to the challenges of trauma healing.
$250 for 1-hour consult
$475 for 2-hour consult
You'll learn the essentials necessary to understand:
HOW your loved one is affected by trauma
WHY those effects are so pervasive and long-lasting,
WHAT can help launch and the healing process
WHERE to find more information
WHO is best suited to guide recovery
WHEN to take action vs. let your loved one call the shots
My family has been in exactly your position -- and didn't have the insights, guidance, or help from a professional who truly understood the dynamics of trauma in a family.
Decide today to reclaim a sense of knowledge, certainty and direction in how your family moves forward from here so that one, two and even six months from now you can look back and say that things started to change for the better when you took a proactive stand on gaining knowledge, planning strategy, and breaking cyclical negative patterns that pull the family apart at just the moment it most needs to come together.
Imagine your family feeling more connected, committed, and creative in how it deals with life after trauma. The struggle has gone on long enough. It's time to get organized, stop the chaos, and start creating a new path forward.
Apply for a FRIENDS & FAMILY CONSULT today.
There's so much we can do to ease your connected and collaborative path forward!
We're all in this together.....