There is no quick fix, shortcut or magic bullet in healing trauma. You have to be responsible and accountable and, above all, do the work. Period.

When you're ready to get relief from unwanted memories, stop embarrassing outbursts, restore your self-respect, regain control over thoughts and behaviors, re-energize your focus, reboot your recovery, create emotional freedom, and rediscover what it feels like to be connected to and expressing your true self you need an approach customized to your lifestyle, your comfort level and your desired pace.

Calm, Confident  &  In Control

A 3-Phase Customized Approach to Feeling Better After Trauma


Read on for a full description of the framework I designed to:

  • guide your consistent and propelled forward momentum

  • hold you in a solid and dependable structure

  • facilitate the necessary and challenging deep work

Essentially, everything you need to change how you feel about the past, alter how you experience the present, and step fully into the future you've been waiting to achieve. 

(Additional fun fact: I've woven into this program all of my pet peeves from 10+ years of my own trauma recovery. It's my intention that you have an opportunity to avoid the slow downs, stalls and loneliness that I endured.)

Your life has been out of your control for way too long. If you're ready to reclaim control read on to learn what kind of process is available to you.

Many clients in the program experience immediate shifts and share feedback like this:

"This is what I noticed in just the first 8 hours after our first session..."  

  • comfort and ease in social situations

  • deep and restful sleep

  • reduced anxiety and fear

  • increased sense of wellbeing, happiness and hope


And the really fun part: family members, friends, and colleagues often comment on the perceptible changes, too.


For an inside peek of how it feels to benefit from the program for three full months, listen to one clients' reflections as she chats with Michele...

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Complementary support elements for each of the phases outlined below can include any of the following: my published books, customized audios, training videos, recorded expert interviews, assessment tools, and formatted templates.

Phase One: CONTROL

You start creating the ultimate shift from powerless to powerful


When you feel confused, out of control and don't know where to begin it becomes very difficult to find motivation for change, prioritize actions and create a process that brings results. All of that changes in this first step where you begin to resolve those significant problems that impact your ability to move forward, including:

  • Confusion

  • Scattered ideas

  • Uncertainty

  • Low self-esteem

  • Disconnection

  • Lack of vision

Through a well-defined, linear framework designed to foster clarity you will:

  • Install the details of your healing intention at a deep level to activate and entrain your desire, commitment and dedication to change

  • Create a vision of the end result that offers a filter to guide future decisions, choices and actions

  • Use a strengths-based, present- and future-focused approach that incorporates all areas of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual realms to create change at deep levels 

  • Combine the benefits of concentrated thought with physical embodiment to activate a future-forward focus

  • Jumpstart your process with clear ideas about what needs to happen, how and when to reach your desired outcomes

  • Own the changes you make because they are designed, orchestrated and implemented according to your priorities, values and desires

  • Start to craft ideas for what you would like to experience as you shift away from the past and present to the future


At the beginning of any change process it's normal to experience eight core intense negative emotions: fear, grief, sadness, loss, anger, blame, shame and guilt.  Such powerful emotions can cause your thoughts to race and your mind to feel out of control. Meanwhile, your body can reflect that experience or disconnect altogether. 

It is time to create slow, balanced and organized mental processes that allow you to settle your mind and positively reconnect to your body. In this step you will learn scientifically-backed, evidence-based methods to begin your process of reclaiming control so that you:


  • Slow your thoughts

  • Control your emotions

  • Focus your mind

  • Develop robust coping practices 

Through concentrated education and easy-to-apply tools you will:

  • Understand and identify how trauma’s neurophysiological effects have affected your past and present

  • Learn to work with your brain and body rather than against them

  • Stop forcing change and instead create it naturally

  • Stock your self-control tool box with techniques you can learn quickly and use immediately in any situation

  • Develop, deepen and expand control over your thoughts, emotions, and reactions in ways that strengthen the connection and communication between your mind and body

  • Be absolutely sure you’re following tool technique protocol while also learning to personalize the application to your specific circumstances

  • Forget cookie-cutter, you-have-to-do-it-this-way processes for creating change and instead start feeling better at the ground level of focus and control


At the beginning of any major change process it's normal to worry about the amount of work involved, lack belief that you can achieve the outcomes you desire, and feel less than emotionally strong.


For a long time you may have felt that some areas of your experience have been out of control. Naturally, the notion of creating change can feel overwhelming when you have been:

  • Hiding from the past

  • Overwhelmed by history

  • Emotionally hijacked by memories

  • Scared of what is remembered

  • Uncomfortable with your trauma narrative

  • Unable to express (the effects of) traumatic situations

  • Experiencing an inability to accept the past

  • Afraid to explore (or tell) the truth

  • Lacking a structured timeline of history

  • Struggling with the intensity of the eight core negative emotions


Now, that all begins to change. In this step you learn to face, frame and control the past with language while also connecting with and exponentially activating your inner resources. All of this will allow you to:

  • Feel confident and in command of language and emotion while you become more powerful than your past

  • Easily place events in the context of a template that prevents you from getting lost in emotional details

  • Strengthen your mental processes so that traumatic experiences hold less of an emotional/energetic charge

  • Follow a step-by-step formula to tell your story efficiently from an empowered perspective (if this feels useful to you)

  • Feel excited, motivated and capable of putting the past into a context of your choosing

Phase Two: CHANGE

You resolve and release trauma and its effects


Trauma symptoms express in different ways. Perhaps you've experienced insomnia, nightmares, sleep disturbances, mood swings, recurring thoughts, intrusive memories or a constant state of hyper-arousal (the body's natural fight/flight/freeze survival response). All of this interferes with living a normal life. 

Like many trauma survivors you might find that post-traumatic stress symptoms leave you:

  • Constantly thinking unwanted thoughts related to the past

  • Driven by eight core negative emotions

  • Enacting self-sabotage patterns

  • Stalled in repetitive negative habits (including behavioral and substance abuse addictions)

  • Bound to a default survivor identity (in which you react to rather than create desired circumstances)

  • Unable to intimately connect with another human being

  • Unable to sustain romantic relationships

  • Exhibiting poor parenting skills

  • Stymied, blocked or stuck in your career

  • Full of a sense of emptiness

  • Lacking a sense of purpose

  • Repeatedly activated by triggers 

  • Carrying an underlying sense of less than/undeserving/self-hate/unworthiness

  • Stuck in the past (and believing that it predicts your future)

Instead, what would it be like if you were grounded in positive emotions, experienced consistent mental peace and broke free from all compulsions? In this step you learn to:

  • Take the guesswork out of why you keep ending up in the same place

  • Name your biggest struggles in mind, body, and soul

  • Trace them to their origin (this means we address the emotion rather than the symptom)

  • Understand the sequence of how these problems operate automatically 

  • Easily prioritize the (most powerful) negative habits that need to change

  • Feel more calm and in control knowing that you can feel better with less analysis and more brain change 

  • Move as quickly or as slowly as you choose so that the process of feeling better becomes comfortable and manageable
  • Activate deep unconscious resources to make this phase smooth, comfortable and natural


After trauma the body and mind put in place survival mechanisms that create habits - those automatic actions and thoughts that can be tough to interrupt and leave you gritting your teeth in frustration. You might find yourself thinking or saying, "I can't help myself, I just _______!" Or, "I get an overwhelming flood of feeling that makes me _______!" Or, "Whenever ___ happens I automatically ________."

Your brain's job is to keep you safe. In fact, all of your habits are designed to work in a system that allows you to achieve safety in some way, shape or form -- even if that means you:

  • Default to powerlessness

  • React without control (instead of respond with intent)

  • Feel driven by compulsive need

  • Get stuck in repetitive behaviors and reactions

  • Find yourself unable to problem-solve alternatives

  • Continually create unwanted negative outcomes

  • Lack control over your behavior

  • Hit blocks in creating substantial and reliable change


In this step all of that begins to change when you develop the ability to:


  • Efficiently locate problem triggers and habits

  • Define which neural networks need to be neutralized and/or eliminated

  • Quickly identify how the habit neural network operates

  • Draft a blueprint of how problem behaviors, thoughts, emotions, etc. need to be rewired and resolved

  • Proactively plan, design, test and troubleshoot solutions

  • ​Learn techniques specifically designed to help your brain work better

  • Engage the deep structure of the brain to achieve organic and lasting results

  • Activate your unconscious mind to naturally identify congruent and aligned solutions


Every time things feel good do you do something to mess it up? In the process of how to heal trauma survivors often find that they can get results (but can't sustain them), or they get excited to change (but then fizzle out), or know they need to take an action (but just can't take the first step).

There are many reasons for the poor patterns you may be experiencing, including:

  • Self-sabotage

  • Procrastination

  • Lack of motivation

  • Lack of an organized plan

  • Lack of comfort with unfamiliar outcomes

  • Concern about others’ response to changes

  • Disturbed by uncertainty of long-term effects


Not to worry. Feeling comfortable with feeling good happens more easily than you might expect, especially when you develop a healthy sense of urgency, an advance plan and increased self-trust. All of that happens in this step when you:


  • Laser-focus change at the origin of the problem

  • Release pain, struggle and suffering without diving more deeply into the content of what causes the intense eight core negative emotions

  • Quickly create resolutions that train your brain to create new responses to old triggers

  • Gain momentum in your transformation by having a clear, sequential bottom-up focus on change

  • Objectively identify trigger points, categories and other data to expand the change

  • Eliminate internal resistance

  • Open a path to successful trauma-pattern reduction and/or elimination

  • Create change in the deep structure of the mind where traumatic memories are actually held

  • Use science-backed processes to install new automatic responses, beliefs, and perspectives

  • Collaborate with your brain's natural design to build in healthy and supportive habits

  • Access deeper vision, clarity and creativity through advanced complementary brain training

Phase Three: CREATE

You implement a lifestyle strategy to sustain results


Trauma hijacks who you are. In the blink an eye (and then over years and decades) how trauma affects you includes the way it fragments your self. In fact, it distorts your true self into a mere shadow while your adaptable, post-trauma self takes control.


This identity shift happens without your even noticing it. You may develop tendencies of perfectionism and control or isolation and withdrawal. All of these illuminate the root cause of how trauma works on the mental and emotional level. 

Understand this: The True You is still in there. Your mission now is to free The True You from the prison of trauma means by changing what you think trauma means.

For example, trauma taught you things that caused you to change your interpretation of yourself, others, and the world. Where trauma is stored in the brain, and where trauma is stored in the body alters your experience of who you are and disconnects you from your True Self.

Without the crucial, positive, internal connected sense of being that a solid identity creates you may:

  • Lack clarity about who you want to be

  • Have an idea of WHO you want to be but don’t know how to create it

  • Feel a lost sense of self

  • Don’t like who you are/have become

  • Have never liked who you are

  • Have never known/had a clear sense of self

  • Don’t know how to deliberately construct an identity

  • Be afraid to change who you are 

  • Not know how to change who you are

  • Feel blocked in imagining or desiring your new self

  • Lack clarity of self-definition and expression

  • Need to update your self-perception due to healing outcomes

  • Desire new things now that you have achieved many of your original healing intentions 

This step addresses how to upgrade your identity by leading you through processes to:

  • Honor the past, respect the present and shift into the future in an organized manner

  • Integrate easy-to-master techniques that reverse-engineer the identity process to reveal The True You without deliberately activating or increasing pain, struggle or suffering

  • Ramp up your process with a long-term educational tool designed to laser-focus and efficiently support your identity exploration and discovery

  • Confidently move forward with clarity and direction

  • Explore, discover, develop and refine your values, mission and purpose to give your identity depth, structure and texture

  • Solidify a framework in which you want your identity to function so that you step forward with clarity, vision and groundedness

  • Develop a clear and actionable vision for embodying The True You

  • Make deliberate choices about who you choose to be so that you have a solid framework in which to develop new actions, behaviors, choices, and persona


Activating your identity shift means learning how to express what is true in and about you, plus proactively managing your (emotional) response to the changes so that you can comfortably relate to yourself, others and the world from this new perspective.

Creating change on the deep core level of identity can bring up such issues as:

  • Not knowing how to incorporate/translate internal shifts into the external world

  • Not knowing how to organize rebuilding your life around your true self

  • Not feeling comfortable in your true self 

  • Feeling like an imposter

  • Feeling overwhelmed by the changes

  • Others don’t know how to relate to your new way of being

  • Afraid you can’t sustain changes

  • Uncertain about how to act as your true self

  • Lacking clarity about how to translate new ideas and beliefs into attitudes and behaviors

  • Lacking vision for a total life overhaul

  • Lacking a structured plan to explore (and anticipate) how these changes affect all areas of your life

The purpose of this step is to easily facilitate your transformation transition in the following areas:

  • Teaching your mind what you want to activate through both conscious and unconscious resources

  • Developing a filter to use for all future choices, options, and actions to ensure you are living in alignment with your truest self

  • Designing the embodiment process by chunking down actions into a comfortable flow and process

  • Creating an implementation sequence designed to maximize control and expand calm

  • Planning the ‘how’ in advance by knowing what to do so that you minimize overwhelm and create opportunity to quickly notice when to take action

  • Preparing for implementation with contingency plans and resolutions to possible road blocks

  • Proactively assessing your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats to your embodiment plan and ability


This final step is all about making sure that you know how to sustain the desired results you've achieved. It's normal to lose focus and momentum when you hit one of life's challenging moments, or to feel overwhelmed  by what to do, how and when, or uncertain about how to properly pace yourself. 

These issues can lead to such challenges as:

  • Not knowing how to tactically implement changes across all areas of your life

  • Implementing too much too soon so that you feel out of control

  • Implementing too slowly so that you feel ineffective

  • Lacking support for implementation both internally and externally

  • Disappointment when setbacks occur

  • Uncertainty about how to troubleshoot unexpected outcomes

  • Too emotional about actions and outcomes

To feel confident you need a practical, well-paced productive plan that holds you in a manageable strategy. Plus, you need a plan designed around milestones and bite-size, doable actions. The combination of these elements creates more access to your resilience and enhances the sustainability of every result. Which is why this final step focuses on:


  • Developing a concrete timeline with milestones to ensure that the next ninety days deliver results

  • Developing an illustrative tool so that you have a solid and refined step-by-step process to follow

  • Troubleshooting common implementation problems with easily actionable responses

  • Knowing exactly each sequential step to make implementation effortlessly flow

  • Increasing momentum and success by activating subconscious resources and installing new neural pathways