Friends

& Family

Consult

ARE YOU TIRED OF FEELING LOST AND CONFUSED ABOUT HOW TO TAKE CARE OF, SUPPORT, AND EVEN JUST SIMPLY INTERACT WITH YOUR LOVED ONE WHO STRUGGLES WITH TRAUMA?

Have you had just about all you can take struggling to understand what causes triggers and how to avoid them?

Feel like whatever you do it's wrong and somehow your fault if there's a flare up, meltdown, or complete crash?

You KNOW there has to be a better way to maintain the family bonds you cherish while also being positively supportive with appropriate boundaries but the things you're trying don't work and you don't have the time or knowledge to understand why or what to do differently.

You want peace, love, understanding, support and CONNECTION in your family the way ANYONE would who cares deeply about relationships, but knowing how to create that now is the big mystery that shadows every day.

I GET IT -- MORE THAN YOU'LL EVER TRULY KNOW.

For almost 30 years of my own PTSD experience I watched my family and friends struggle to navigate how to stay connected to me when I was an emotional live-wire. 

If they wanted to spend time with me, I wanted to be isolated.

If I wanted to spend time with them, I had to control every minute detail of our interaction.

I was unpredictable, easily angered, quick to cry, and utterly undependable.

Friends dropped me because I seemed temperamental. Family became exasperated with me because I ruined so many get togethers.

It would have made things so much easier for all of us if there had been some kind of Trauma Recovery Debrief and Handbook that everyone was given.

Here's what I see happen when friends and family receive the type of inside information they really need to form their own coping mechanisms, plus learn how to help their loved one cope as well:

  • Triggers become minimized and avoidable

  • Solutions to conflicts happen more efficiently

  • Families and friends work together with survivors to create deeply connected relationships

  • Healing happens more effectively for the survivor herself, and also for the relationships around her 

Late in my recovery, when this happened in my own family, we experienced a great sense of comaraderie as we functioned more like a Trauma Recovery Team WHILE STILL having non-trauma-focused time as a family. We enjoyed family time at home. We went on New York City outings. We took trips on my brother's boat. We went to the Caribbean Islands for vacation.

Life and the family went on a parallel track with recovery. We learned to find balance, respect, and a gameplan. We learned to heal together.

Are you ready to learn how to lead your family toward post-trauma connection and collaboration?

Friends

& Family

Consult

TRAUMA EDUCATION, COPING TECHNIQUES, AND SUPPORT-CENTRIC TRAUMA RECOVERY STRATEGY FOR THE FRIENDS AND FAMILY WHO WANT TO STAY CLOSELY CONNECTED TO A TRAUMA SURVIVOR ON HER JOURNEY TO WELLNESS.

I've designed this consult specifically for family and friends who want to learn:

  • How trauma affects the brain, body, and spirit

  • To develop effective coaching strategies for trigger moments

  • What to say -- and not to say -- to a trauma survivor

  • How to take care of themselves while taking care of a survivor

  • Coping techniques for living with the stress of post-trauma life

  • Strategies for creating connected relationships in the aftermath of trauma

Some practitioners use a lot of psychological or pseudo-scientific jargon that makes your head spin. Others talk in a lot of generalities but don't give you specific, hands-on takeaways that you can implement the minute the consult ends. 

None of that helps you achieve the goals most important to your family -- and that's all I care about.

Together, we'll simplify what you need to know, how you can apply it, and when, where, and with whom to implement it so that you feel more certain, more knowledgeable, and more adept at handling how trauma affects your family day-to-day.

In this program, specifically designed to address you and your family's unique needs, I'm teaching you everything you need to know in a way that makes it super-easy to understand and utilize -- even if you don't have a degree in science or psychology  -- so that you can start rebuilding your family bonds and experiencing that sense of sustainable equanimity and personal connection that you're missing.

My past and current clients have:

  • Gone from zero communication to deep dialogue in 1 day

  • Created collaborative coping strategies that dramatically reduced day-to-day stress

  • Discovered how to reconnect after a long period of alienation

  • Collaborated with their loved one to create new strategies that handle triggers and post-trauma symptoms quickly and effectively

  • Learned how to take care of themselves while supporting their survivor 

In the FRIENDS & FAMILY CONSULT we start with the basics you need to know and then build a unique protocol based on what your relationship currently experiences 
so that you can better manage intense moments, more accurately predict potential problems, stabilize the connection between you and your loved one, plus learn how to work as a team to manage post-trauma symptoms, issues, and challenges. 

1

BECOMING YOUR OWN TRAUMA EXPERT

 STARTS WITH EDUCATION

Knowing how to manage the healing process is the most important currency in life after trauma. The more you understand the definition of trauma, its nature, how it behaves, how it creates deep and lasting impact, and what that means for you and your loved one the more you will be able to start creating organization out of the trauma chaos.

In this part of the conversation we will:

  • Give you a grounded foundation for understanding what trauma is, and what it isn't

  • Outline how trauma happens and explain why some people are affected by it while others aren't

  • Identify signs of struggle after trauma

  • Detail how trauma affects the body and mind -- and, most importantly -- the brain

2

DEVELOPING PARTNER SKILLS,

INTUITION, AND STRATEGY 

Understanding how to partner with a survivor in recovery changes everything. Here we'll focus on the powerful foundational structure of developing your ability to lead, interact, support, and sustainably hold the post-trauma space in ways that inspire, respect, and actively encourage comfortably paced forward motion.

Get ready to:

  • Learn how to manage a variety of symptoms with specific, go-to actions

  • Predict and avoid triggers in multiple situations

  • Develop survivor-savvy language that creates a positive, collaborative, and creative relationship

  • Embrace the Do's and Don'ts of survivor relationship management

  • Define a strategy of survivor care specifically detailed and customized to your situation

3

Creating a committed and connected relationship that survives trauma and recovery requires forethought, planning, and the ability to translate ideas into action. Here's where we get extremely detailed in what to do when our session ends.

Prepare yourself to:

  • Specifically design a core communication strategy that effectively expresses both your loved one's and your needs and experience

  • Outline a plan to create a more comfortable and actively sustained connection

  • Identify a preliminary collaborative healing plan that includes specific intentions, milestones, and resolutions to challenges

STABILIZING THE RELATIONSHIP

TODAY

Start making a list of your questions because we are going to answer ALL OF THEM.

YOUR PRIVATE CONSULT  WITH MICHELE CONTAINS:

  • Your Brain After Trauma e-book, Michele's introductory guide to how trauma affects the brain, and the brain's powerful ability to heal.

  • 10 Tips to Understanding Someone with PTSD , an infographic overview of trauma from the survivor perspective to educate family members about what the survivor experiences and how it affects behavior.

  • (1) 1-hour laser strategy coaching and educational session

  • Option to upgrade to 2-hour session ​to cover additional components of family care, including....

4

Recognizing how post-trauma life affects you is essential. Your loved one isn't the only one who needs care, support, and attention during this time. You do, too. Caregivers often forget to prioritize how to think about, nurture, and make time to de-stress themselves. And, they also often set aside what's bothering them to keep the spotlight on what's challenging their loved one. Truly healing the relationship means also healing yourself.

In this part of the conversation we will:

  • Clearly identify the impact this post-trauma experience has on you

  • Outline strategic and simple options for boundaries and self-care

  • Detail an implementable plan to reclaim your sense of self outside of your caregiver role

  • Engage effective processes for efficient emotional release so that you feel more energized, less burdened, and clear on how to protect and support yourself through the trauma healing process

RESOLVING YOUR OWN STRUGGLE, FRUSTRATION, AND STRESS

It is ENTIRELY possible for post-trauma relationships in your family to be more consistently comfortable, emotionally balanced, and able to flex to the challenges of trauma healing.

INVESTMENT =

$250 for 1-hour consult

$475 for 2-hour consult

You'll learn the essentials necessary to understand:

  • HOW your loved one is affected by trauma

  • WHY those effects are so pervasive and long-lasting,

  • WHAT can help launch and  the healing process

  • WHERE to find more information

  • WHO is best suited to guide recovery

  • WHEN to take action vs. let your loved one call the shots

My family has been in exactly your position -- and didn't have the insights, guidance, or help from a professional who truly understood the dynamics of trauma in a family.

Decide today to reclaim a sense of knowledge, certainty and direction in how your family moves forward from here so that one, two and even six months from now you can look back and say that things started to change for the better when you took a proactive stand on gaining knowledge, planning strategy, and breaking cyclical negative patterns that pull the family apart at just the moment it most needs to come together.

Imagine your family feeling more connected, committed, and creative in how it deals with life after trauma. The struggle has gone on long enough. It's time to get organized, stop the chaos, and start creating a new path forward.

Apply for a FRIENDS & FAMILY CONSULT today.

 

There's so much we can do to ease your connected and collaborative path forward!

We're all in this together.....

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